There is only one kind of person that you should lock in as your one and only buddy--a person who you know beyond any shadow of a doubt will never take nicotine again, who you also know beyond the shadow of a doubt is going to outlive you so that they are always around to support your quit and who you have total access to 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and will have that kind of access to the rest of your life. The fact is that you don't know this about any... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (GrumpyOMrsS (Gold)) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258274 Thu, 23 Dec 2004 23:10:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258261/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258261

From: Joel.

Sent: 3/7/2003 1:48 PM

... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Joel) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258261 Sun, 31 Oct 2004 02:50:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258260/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258260

Often when a number of people come in at the same time, a feeling of instant rapport and affiliation by age of the quit can be formed. But as the above string illustrates, don't let this be the bond that ties you to another individual. You do not know how long this person will stay a member and you do not know how long this person will stay off of smoking. We have a lot of longer term stable quitters here, hundreds of them with dozens of them participating at... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Joel) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258260 Fri, 29 Oct 2004 23:04:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258257/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258257

Often when a number of people come in at the same time, a feeling of instant rapport and affiliation by age of the quit can be formed. But as the above string illustrates, don't let this be the bond that ties you to another individual. You do not know how long this person will stay a member and you do not know how long this person will stay off of smoking. We have a lot of longer term stable quitters here, hundreds of them with dozens... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (GrumpyOMrsS (Gold)) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258257 Sun, 17 Oct 2004 19:57:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258255/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258255

We've noticed that a few of our newer members are starting to bond into a bit of a social network. We caution our newest members that spending time sharing common experiences and feelings is not the best utilization of your time and efforts here at Freedom. You have a whole lot more to learn and benefit from our longer term seasoned members and on reading from the materials that we have made available here and at feeds@yuku.com (Joel) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258255 Tue, 12 Oct 2004 02:28:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258252/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258252 There is only one kind of person that you should lock in as your one and only buddy--a person who you know beyond any shadow of a doubt will never take nicotine again, who you also know beyond the shadow of a doubt is going to outlive you so that they are always around to support your quit and who you have total access to 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and will have that kind of access to the rest of your life. The fact is that you don't know this about any single... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (GrumpyOMrsS (Gold)) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258252 Sun, 19 Sep 2004 07:21:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258242/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258242 Joel, Thanks for your advice on this one. I would have thought going threw something with someone else at the same time would be of benefit. Now, I see after reading this just what your talking about. I'm so glad I have your knowledge to turn to. I'm learning! I know I'm making mistakes, but turning those mistakes around and learning useful info is a important key to winning. Learning One Day at a Time.

DA-smokefree:11days

]]> feeds@yuku.com (whynotmee1) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258242 Tue, 20 Jul 2004 17:03:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258233/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258233 Hi John,

I just read your post about Freedom's 40% 6 month cessation rate. How can you tell - if I decided not to post any more it wouldn't necessarily mean I had gone back to nicotine - and you must have lots of successful quitters who just stop posting as they get on with their non smoking lives? I would have thought that - good though 40% is - the rate was even higher than that. I don't like to think that 'the majority

of all... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (carvoiero gold) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258233 Fri, 23 Apr 2004 02:47:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258221/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258221

No Crutches - Especially Ones Likely to Break

Freedom's almost 40% six-month continuous nicotine cessation rate may sound rather amazing and it may very likely be the highest Inter net... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (John (Gold)) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258221 Sat, 14 Feb 2004 20:59:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258198/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258198 I just pulled the post from a member who was saying that she was having problems and wanted people to help. Her method of asking for help though was to ask people to write her off directly via email and off the board. We do not operate that way here at Freedom. There is a good chance when any member looks for this kind of one on one help that they are looking to form a buddy system. We offer all the help we can right here on the board. We want to ensure that anyone asking for support or... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Joel) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258198 Tue, 07 Oct 2003 20:30:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/reply/258189/t/Buddy-Systems.html#reply-258189 My mentors are all right here.

My partner has quit smoking, and is finding it difficult but perservering. His quit is very much separate from mine, but I'm going to try to get him to come here to post; I think he lurks here sometimes anyway.

feeds@yuku.com (Lyverbyrd) http://ffn.yuku.com/sreply/258189 Sat, 19 Jul 2003 22:42:00 GMT http://ffn.yuku.com/topic/12760/t/Buddy-Systems.html Buddy Systems

You often hear about buddy systems in substance abuse programs. AA and NA and CA heavily utilize this highly effective and supportive technique. But it is important to understand something about the term "buddy system" These programs are generally "buddying" the newbie with a sponsor more than a buddy.

The sponsor is not a person quitting the same day; it is a person who has likely... ]]> feeds@yuku.com (Joel) http://ffn.yuku.com/topic/12760 Sun, 30 Apr 2000 04:02:00 GMT