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Recently one of our members here at Freedom asked whether or not she should call herself a non-smoker since she had quit smoking. Basically the answer is yes, although for some people it can create a state of confusion. These are people who look at the term from a historical perspective and sometimes, on official documentation such as insurance forms there may be a legal distinction. But for personal purposes, the term is fine as long as you understand that there is a difference between a non-smoker and a never-smoker.
Other terms that can apply are ex-smoker, reformed smoker, recovering smoker, or arrested smoker. Although, I think they should all be preceded by "very happy" as in "very happy ex-smoker" so the term doesn't have a tone of sadness or deprivation to the person it is being said to.
As I said above, non-smoker really does apply, since you don't smoke, but historically, before smoker and non-smoker had any real negative or positive connotations, many people coined the term to refer to a person who never smoked a day in their life. I guess the more accurate term for what is considered by many as a non-smoker would be a "never smoker." But it is hard to undo commonly accepted terminology.
Again, there is a big difference between a never smoker and an ex-smoker. Even though physically and mentally they may feel the same, all attitudes might in fact be exact; there is a physiological difference. The ex-smoker still has an addiction. It is asymptomatic but exists none the less. The difference may only be apparent in one major situation.
A never smoker could, if they really wanted to, which, for no logical reason should ever happen, take a nice deep puff on a cigarette. In all likelihood, they would cough, gag, and sometimes, even throw up from such a stupid and impulsive act, feel crummy for a while and never consider doing it again.
An ex-smoker could do the same irrational act, taking a drag, coughing, gag, and maybe even throw up. They could feel absolutely horrible, physiologically, maybe even worse than the never smoker who did the same thing. They could end up hating themselves for having done it. Then within minutes, or hours or maybe days, they will have an uncontrollable urge and take another. May even get the same reactions, feel absolutely horrible and sick. But soon they take more and hit possibly levels of multiple packs per day.
But the difference lies in the fact that the first drag, even though unpleasant, creates the uncontrollable urge in the ex-smoker as compared to a repulsion in the never smoker. For the act of a drag to the ex-smoker is a drug relapse. The addiction that was lying dormant is brought back to full force.
You are an ex-smoker now, or whatever term you are comfortable with. But always in the background of consciousness, remember you are still and always will be a recovering nicotine addict. It is not necessarily a pleasant way to think of oneself, but it is essential to have the basic understanding that because of a past behavior you always have to be on guard. For as negative of a connotation than ex-smoker may have to an individual, it is far superior to having to say, "I am a smoker."
A smoker is a person who is currently under control of a drug, constantly administering dose after dose, with every single puff, dozens to maybe hundreds of times a day. And with that active drug, nicotine, they are also talking in 40 carcinogens (cancer producing chemicals), four thousand other chemicals, hundreds of them poisonous (Arsenic, hydrogen cyanide, carbon monoxide, formaldehyde, just to name a few.) They are increasing their risks of some of the most debilitating and fatal diseases known to man. They smell perpetually bad, they are social outcasts while actively practicing their drug delivery system.
Yes ex-smoker may not sound perfect, but active smoker is a horrible thing to have to admit to and experience. To keep your current status of whatever you want to call it, and never be caught again in the deadly way of life of a smoker, remember...never take another puff!
Feb 13 15 12:00 AM
Answer: There is no answer, it was a trick question. You never got unaddicted.
The question should have been how long does it take to relapse? The answer to this is how long does it take you to secure a cigarette, strike a match or lighter and take a puff? It can happen in an instant if you ever drop your guard.
So how long does it take to secure your quit? It only takes a few seconds, the time that it should take for you to just remind yourself as to why you committed to never take another puff!
Point of the above two references is that you cannot stop your addiction to nicotine, but you can stop feeding the addiction and thus break the grip that the addiction held on you. Then the addiction will become asymptomatic and stay that way as long as you stick to your personal commitment to never take another puff..
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Feb 13 15 1:46 PM
Feb 13 15 2:13 PM
There is an important underlying message in many of the posts put up by our members and managers when we are asked to help a person in distress. That message is for the member to read, read, read. We have provided a great wealth of information here at Freedom and at WhyQuit.com about the addiction and a lot of posts from all of our members with real life examples of how a smoke free life is a real possibility for any person wanting to stay quit. I get letters daily from members and non-members thanking us for providing these materials and who say that they have spent hour upon hour reading all of the materials in the Quit Library and on the board. They make it clear that many things they read over and over again to secure their quits. You can tell that these people are spending a lot of time working at securing their quits. Its interesting because I never got an email from a disgruntled ex-smoker who has said that he or she was really mad because of all of the time that he or she has wasted reading these materials over and over again.
There are times though where I will get a letter from a person who has relapsed who will say with great regret that he or she wished that he or she had done more to secure his or her quits. Sometimes these are from people who were once long-term ex-smokers and now have been smoking years or decades because they didn't put enough of a priority on staying quit.
Again this comes down to the issue of what can Freedom do for you in securing your quit. We can do what we are doing--providing you information on the dangers of smoking, enhancing your knowledge on the process of quitting and the importance of keeping your guard up and your ammunition reinforced of why you want to stay smoke free. How we do this is by having this site and WhyQuit.comup and going 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year, as long as MSN and our webhost servers stay up and going. It is crucial to note though that your quit is not going to stay easy by us just doing our part. The fact is that each and every member and reader is going to have to do his or her own part if this quit is going to stay on track. Your part is to read and learn as much as you can, on bad days and occasionally on good ones too. In fact, the more good days you spend a little time reading here at Freedom, the less bad days you are likely ever to experience. Read and learn as much as you can here. The more you read the stronger your quit will stay and the more resolute you will always be in the commitment you made when you joined up at Freedom to never take another puff!
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We are a cold turkey education and support forum that understands that the key to permanent abstinence is understanding. Why are we a cold turkey site? Because we know that educated cold turkey quitting works. Cold turkey is the method that each year generates more long-term successful ex-users than all other quitting methods combined. Cold turkey has prevailed over government approved quitting products in nearly all real-world quitting method surveys conducted to date.
If you are serious about breaking nicotine's grip upon your life and think that we are right for you, join us! You will find like-minded people who are all off of nicotine and for the most part happy about it. If we are not right for you please do not join. It would be like joining a religious group in order to convert all of their existing followers to your belief or joining a political party for the sole purpose of having all of its members vote for the opposing party candidate. When a person joins a group under these terms they are not joining a group, they are trying to subvert the group. This is an act of hostility not an act of support or camaraderie.
We are hostile to no one, not even to the tobacco industry or pharmaceutical companies who have different agendas than ours. They exist because they want you to use their products. We exist because you want to stop using them. We are not here to try to make anyone stop using their products either. We are here to help people stop using nicotine because they have already decided to do so.
We are here to help nicotine users who have come to a point in their life that they want to stop and want help doing it -- people who have already picked their plan of action. They have chosen to go cold turkey and want to know what to expect and how to stay focused. That is what we are going to be doing now, helping them maintain their focus.
We help people understand why they used nicotine, how important it is to stop using it, how to break free and most importantly, how to stay free. Many nicotine users who quit at one time or another in their life, some for many years or even decades, relapse. Each did so for one reason and one reason only, they allowed nicotine back into their bloodstream. It's likely that they either did not understand the Law of Addiction or never learned about it to begin with.
We explain nicotine dependency, how to arrest it and provide a forum which brings together like-minded quitters from around the globe. We live by one simple principal here at Freedom: we stay free by staying nicotine-free. No one can relapse without using nicotine. In fact, it's impossible to be a user again without using.
So there you have it, what we are in a nutshell. We are a group of people who share one thing in common. We have decided that today we will not put nicotine into our bodies. Our pasts may be different but our future intent is the same. We are committed to never using nicotine again! References: Doran CM et al, Smoking status of Australian general practice patients and their attempts to quit Addictive Behaviors, May 2006, Volume 31(5), Pages 758-766; Fiore MC et al, Methods used to quit smoking in the United States: do cessation programs help? Journal of the American Medical Association, May 1990, Volume 263(20), Pages 2760-2765. Polito JR, Are those who quit smoking paying with their lives because of NRT’s failure? British Medical Journal, 2012;344doi: 10.1136/bmj.e886 (Published 7 February 2012); Polito JR, Meta-analysis rooted in expectations not science, E-Letter, Canadian Medical Association Journal, July 29, 2008, http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/eletters/179/2/135#19781 This letter was published in condensed form with only one quitting method survey references at: Polito JR,Smoking cessation trials, Canadian Medical Association Journal, November 2008, Volume 179, Pages 1037-1038; also see meta-analysis editors' rebuttal at Filion, KB et al, Smoking cessation trials, Canadian Medical Association Journal, November 4, 2008, Volume 179, Page 1038.; also see rebuttal to editors; Polito JR, Why cessation blinding concerns differ from other clinical trials, E-Letter, Canadian Medical Association Journal, November 9, 2008, http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/eletters/179/10/1038#26129 .
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