Alma thank you, so very much, this is what is so lovely about this site, not only is there a wealth of information but also some wonderful people giving their support and help to each other.  I'm feeling pretty emotional but how rubbish and dreadful would I feel if I picked up a cigarette and lit it!!?  so although that voice tries and tries I am not going to listen.

I have worked out how long it is till my daughter returns, marking particular dates and by the time she returns I too will be 5 days shy of 9 months!! 
A great big well done on your 9 month landmark, I hope you are celebrating today.

With such grateful thanks - its the not feeling alone that is just the best xxxxxx

Lucie
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