imageHang in there, Heidi!
No need to cut off your nose to spite your face .... I expect he feels guilty enough already. His weakness will only hurt himself. At this point, if you relapse, it will be your choice, not his. You will find many people on these boards who managed to quit smoking while their spouses continued to smoke. One simple rule, NTAP! Hopefully, he will be considerate enough to keep his smoking outside. If not, here are some tools that may help
Don't be afraid that the smell of smoke around your environment will be constantly triggering you. You really do sort of learn to tune it out and then it just doesn't bother you anymore. In my case, I think it helped me overcome the "2nd hand smoke scent" trigger early on in my quit, so that it never bothered me out in public places later. But you might find you can't stand the 'stink' on his clothing -- PeeUuu!
Eventually, as happened for some of us, by being a calm example of a successful ex-smoker, you may find him joining you sooner than you expect. No matter what, he has to quit for himself, when he is ready.
image My name is Jeanine, and I am a nicotine addict.
I have been an ex-smoker for 3 months, 21 days, 13 hours, 2 minutes and 50 seconds (113 days).
I've chosen not to smoke 3406 death sticks, and saved $410.67 to spend on a real habit - SHOES :o)
I have 11 days, 19 hours and 51 minutes more life to pester my family and love on my dogs.