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Sep 9 06 4:07 AM
There was an issue brought up in a post today that was indicative of the kind of lies smokers tell themselves in order to rationalize smoking. It made me think of this commentary we use at Freedom explaining how we limit the kind of lies that can be shared by actively addicted smokers here at Freedom.
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From: Joel Sent: 6/13/2004 7:42 AM
Don't worry, no one else has relapsed that we know of. That is not why I am popping up this post. The reason I am commenting here is because I had an email last night from a person who was questioning the logic of our relapse policy.
I think that the person thought that it was a policy that was impossible to enforce because a member could actually relapse and just say nothing or even lie about it and we would never know the difference. We have addressed this issue before at Freedom. Here is a post from back in April of last year after another member raised the same question at the board.
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From: Joel Sent: 3/4/2003 5:00 PM
Wow you mean a smoker might lie when they relapse. Never thought of that one. Now that you mention it, I should have realized this. You see, sometimes when I do corporate clinics one person will have really blown a quit big time, but tell others from the group that they just smoke occasionally and seem to have it under control.
In fact sometimes the successful ex-smokers around the person figures that if the person smoking is saying that he or she can control his or her cigarettes, maybe the successful ex-smoker can do it too. So the successful ex-smoker takes a drag. He or she basically has blown his or her quit now.
But sometimes that person when caught smoking will lie about it to another from the group, saying something like, "Sure I smoke every now an then now, but I have it under control." Then the person they are telling their lie to blows his or her quit. Pretty soon they are all outside freezing together in the smoking section by the loading dock lying to each other how they will be quitting smoking one day.
I guess that is a little harder to do at Freedom, to relapse, say that you just had a slip and are now fine. Because we seem to have this insane rule that says if you say you slipped you are out for good and can never post about it. How in the world can you influence others to blow their quits with that kind of lie? Guess you will just have to find another site that takes relapsing as a matter of fact and no big deal. Luckily you will still be able to read information here and Freedom and WhyQuit if you are ever able to muster the strength to attempt a quit again. You just won't be able to influence anyone else.
There is no lying to your body though. The only way to stay smoke free is to honestly believe in your commitment and keep in force your promise to never take another puff!
Joel
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