I thought I would introduce myself. I am a bit intimidated by all the posting rules, I hope I do not break any of them.
I have smoked since I was 16 and I am 56. I have always been a heavy smoker but it really got out of hand when I retired 5 years ago.
I was not feeling well, had a really bad day, and just decided on the spot to quit. I had never tried to quite before but had been thinking about it for years. That was it, I have not looked back. That was Dec 20th. My quit counter just told me it has been 9 days and 25 min.
I did really well the first few days. Day 7-8 for some reason were very difficult, the cravings were very strong and very frequent. Today it has settled back down again. So one day at a time. I am very proud, I have not faltered in my determination to never smoke again. I do not believe that I will ever smoke again. The way forward is clear.
I really can see that smoking ruled every part of my life, there is almost nothing I do that does not trigger a smoking reaction or craving. This is the area I would like really like some help with.
I have read much of the information on this topic on this site. However I am unsure exactly what it is I should be doing to reprogram the events so they do not keep triggering the thought of smoking.
What I do now is, say to myself, Yes this event (what ever it is) that is triggering a desire to smoke. I take a several deep breaths and tell myself that the event has nothing to do with smoking and I do not need or want to smoke to enjoy the event. I then try hard to think about other things.
This works at the time to relieve the craving, but I keep getting the same amount of reaction to the same triggers every time I do the event.
For example, watering in the garden is a pleasant thing for me to do and I do it every day. I am still triggering today just as strongly and just as frequently when I water as I did the very first day of quitting. Say I pass a bench I would have sat for a smoke, I trigger even though I have now been sitting in the bench every day for the past 9 days and have not smoked. It is as if I have made no progress at all.
Am I miss understanding how triggers work? Where I am going wrong? What could I do differently?