So I'm 14 days into my quit. What I've learned about my smoking has been eye opening, shocking, empowering, and saddening. I smoked a pack a day for 9 years, but my father has been smoking since somewhere between 16 and 18. He's 81 now. He's had, and HAS, health problems directly related to smoking. A "minor" stroke, tooth decay, emphysema... yet he still smokes. He's tried to quit but to say it's been difficult would be the understatement of the decade. A lifetime of denial, triggers, habits, and addiction.
I'm not sure how to help. I know reading John and Joel's books would be a huge start. But there are three obstacles:
1) He's basically a technophobe. So computer or internet use will be slim to none, and probably more like none. No reading the forums, no posting comments, sharing, learning, etc.
2) I don't live at home anymore and am not home very often. It could be weeks until I'm home again, and that means weeks more of likely heavy smoking on top of all of his health problems.
3) He doesn't really know about my addiction, and neither does my mother. To my immediate family I was a closeted smoker who only smoked "every now and again." I think it's extremely important to come clean, so he knows that I'm not just a preachy non-smoker. And that even though he's smoked decades longer than me, I truly understand and am not just trying to deprive him of something he thinks gives him pleasure.
I don't know if I should write him, maybe print out copies of the e-book to mail him? If I should first come clean to my mother so she can help and provide the immediate at home support, as well as technical support to visit the site and post in the forum? I should mention she's a non-smoker. She caught me with a pack of Marlboro Reds at age 17 and it was a bad scene, so I'm a little terrified to tell her about the last 9 years, but will need her support to help my father quit.