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So does everyone have to follow everything we say to
guarantee success? No, not really. But do people have a better chance following the advice and life lessons of hundreds or thousands of people as
opposed to a few exceptions? I will let each and every one of you be the judge of that.
But one rule has no exceptions-the rule that says to
stay smoke free and guarantee that this quit the last quit you will ever have to do requires always remembering to never take another
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A new quitter keeping cigarettes around just to prove they can, is akin to a person on suicide watch carrying a loaded gun. With a triggered
crave being less than 3 minutes in duration (be sure and look at a clock as time distortion is a very real symptom during quitting and your
mind may try to convince you that it's 3 hours instead) one of your best weapons against relapse is delay one minute, delay two minutes,
delay for a third minute, if need be!
Why have a gun handy while waiting on the urge to use it? It
makes no sense!
Each crave will end in a very short period of time whether you
feed it or not. If you know where "it" or "they" are then you'd be well advised to flush or crush your hidden stash!
Baby steps to glory! This is doable! John (Gold)
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Judy, it's all too common that the rational, thinking mind resorts to games, challenges, tests, personification and bizarre rituals when attempting to
arrest a chemical dependency, a dependency that long ago took hostage the priority teaching pathways of the deep inner primitive mind. But such games are
like holding a chicken bone too close to a dog's mouth. Why would superior intelligence intentionally tease a brain into experiencing powerful craves
that it knew or should have known were coming?
Keeping the instrument of relapse handy may be associated with a host of mind games including a tangible attempt to display self control or raw power, an
intentional self-tease, an already defeated mind's access insurance for when challenge becomes significant, or even what sounds like a rational attempt
to extinguish, early, one of the biggest conditioned feeding cues of all, being around cigarettes.
We are told that early alcohol use is associated with 50% of all relapses but even louder is the fact that 100% of relapses involve the addict getting
their hands on nicotine. Although time distortion may make a less than three minute crave episode feel like three hours, if we have the ability to put a
few minutes between us and obtaining nicotine, we afford the rational, thinking mind an opportunity to sense the turmoil begin to subside, and keep
healing, freedom and recovery alive.
There will be plenty of time later for all the mind games you then want to play (if any) and they'll each be super easy to win. You'll no longer
be in the throws of chemical withdrawal, the vast majority of your nicotine feeding cues will have been extinguished, and your deep inner brain will have
been afforded an opportunity to taste the true beauty and flavor of life without nicotine, and sense the inner calm of coming home to you!
Thirty years of my own bondage, and up to 3 packs-a-day, as part of my cessation seminars I'm often handling cigarettes. If you're thinking about
quitting or a new quitter, I wish you could peak inside my mind and feel what it's like to go program after program and yet never once want for
nicotine. Give yourself time. You'll be amazed at how comfortable and content you'll become, even around smokers.
All we can control are the next few minutes and whether the calmest yet or our greatest challenge of all during this temporary period of re-adjustment
called quitting, each will be entirely do-able. You're coming home! Yes you can, yes you have, yes you are!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long,
John (Gold x8)
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