When will my comfort come?
Tomorrow. For every newbie who has recently asked or is getting ready to ask that question, the answer is tomorrow. At exactly 9:00 am EST comfort will come to everyone who quit smoking since the beginning of the new year 2006. Synchronize your watches, and get ready to let out a collective Woo Hoo! You will never have another thought about smoking. You will no longer crave nicotine. You will no longer be angry or sad. The frustrations of quitting will melt away like the last stubborn pile of snow on a warm spring day. That is tomorrow at 9:00 AM. If you are not ready, you will miss it.
Does that sound ridiculous? It should. Can I predict when you will start to feel better because He or She started to feel better after 32 days, and they looked a lot like you. Because Ellen weighed about the same as you and was the same age as you, you will start to feel comfort at 47 days because that is when she began to feel comfort. Don't expect it a moment sooner or a moment after. If you are a man then of course Ellen's recovery has no bearing on when you will feel comfort.
Still sound ridiculous? It should. We all want to know when, because if we know when, then we can start counting the days down until comfort arrives like the Avon lady ringing the bell. Ding Dong - Comfort calling. Not knowing is what makes it difficult because you are waiting for an event. Something solid like a milestone, a medal of honor, a diploma that is unmitigated proof that I have graduated, I am cured of my addiction and it says so right here ... You may have expected that you would feel better by now. Because you have not, you think something is wrong - You are growing impatient.
Many have posted recently in response to these questions that recovery is not an event, it is a journey. It is a lifelong comittment to never take another puff. You are never cured of nicotine addiction. Despite the promise you make to never take another puff, you must learn to live with your addiction one day at a time. This is something that newcomers find difficult to understand. How can you tell me forever and then in the same breath tell me one day at a time? My answer to you is you will understand, but only if you never take another puff. When you truly understand one day at a time, you will find it a powerful ally in all of your life.
Your decision to quit smoking was made because you all recognized the health risks associated with continuing to inhale smoke from burning tobacco that has been laced with hundreds of additives and the byproducts of burning it. Few of you, if any, before finding this site, recognized why you smoked or understood nicotine addiction like you do now. My mother recently had lens replacement surgery. I went with her to the drug store to fill a prescription for 1 Oz. of eye drops that act as an antibiotic. The cost of the prescription was more than $60.00. At that same drug store, I can purchase over the counter, one days supply of the most powerfully addictive substance known to man, for about $5.75. So if you ever get tired of waiting, or don't believe us who have walked the road ahead of you, you can always go buy a pack of over the counter dopamine rush. It is readily available and comparatively inexpensive.
Much of your experience with recovery from nicotine addiction is dependent upon your attitude towards the experience. It has all been said before in well written posts by some of our long term members. If you take the attitude that everything you face is part of the healing process then what you face becomes a source of encouragement (Each challenge I face makes me stronger.) instead of a source of discouragement. (If this goes on like this, I will never make it.) Take credit for what you have done and understand the significance of having quit. If you are posting on this forum then you have quit. You have made it. You are already there. I quit smoking more than 15 months ago, but If I were to smoke a cigarette today then those 15 months would mean absolutely nothing. Nothing, because I smoked today. When I post my stats, I don't post my name and the length of time as if it were some sort of badge of honor. It is simply proof that it can be done. The further I get from my last puff, the more precious each day becomes because I never want to experience withdrawal again, not for 3 days nor for the 30 seconds it took me to pull a cigarette from the box in my breast pocket, pack it on my thumb nail and spark it up.
If you want to wait until tomorrow at 9:00 AM, you may feel a difference or you can decide that right now things are infinitely better than they were when you were still smoking or chewing or however you got your nicotine. They will continue to get better too, as long as you never take another puff.
1 Year, 3 Months, 1 Week, 6 Days, 15 hours, 18 minutes and 58 seconds
One day at a time