How do you handle your feelings at nearly two months when all of your friends have forgotten your quit?
This came up tonight when I emailed a long list of my friends with my latest stats. On impulse, I included Joel in that list. My e mail read something like this, " I know no one cares, but I have chosen not to smoke for 1 Month 3 Weeks 4 Days 21 Hours 14 Minutes 51 Seconds. Somewhere there are 1955 extra cigarettes."
Immediately Joel came back with, "What makes you think no one cares," etc. I know where he's coming from, and I understand that human nature tends to forget our quits after a couple of weeks. That email was just my way of letting my friends know how it's going. Most of them are afraid to ask, afraid I have relapsed, again.
But the point of this post is, how DO we handle it when our quits become less of a novelty to our friends and family. Support of this group is very important to a newly quit nicotine addict. Problem is, that support is hard for our friends and family to maintain--after all, they have lives, too.
After a couple of weeks, the new wears off and they just can't be there for us constantly. If we're not careful, we begin to feel neglected and the junkie mindset tells us to relapse, that way we can get our friends' and family's attention again, even if it is in a negative way.
Don't give in to this kind of junkie thinking. Your quit is just that--it is YOUR quit. It shouldn't matter, and don't let it matter, if anyone else is paying attention or not. You quit for yourself, don't worry if anyone else is noticing or not. You didn't quit for them, you quit for yourself.
Keep everything in perspective, and keep your quit. We've come this far, let's don't go back.
I have chosen not to smoke for 1 Month 3 Weeks 4 Days 22 Hours 29 Minutes 29 Seconds. Somewhere there are 1957 extra cigarettes.