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An Intense, Dependable and Destructive
Relationship Has Ended
A long and intense relationship has ended. Although extremely abusive, destructive, costly
and deadly, you depended upon nicotine laden cigarettes (up to 5% of the dry weight of each cigarette) to replenish your falling blood serum
nicotine level (cut by roughly half every two hours) to keep you from experiencing chemical withdrawal. Nicotine never ever once let you
down unless the cigarette or matches were wet or the lighter or pack empty.
The basic chemical bond and endless need to feed caused us to accumulate a mountain of
psychological baggage as we selected and developed patterns, cues and excuses for feeding our ever declining nicotine reserves.
Once beyond early chemical withdrawal, look upon the remainder of this temporary journey of
adjustment as you would moving beyond the end of any other long and intense relationship. If you were a pack-a-day nicotine smoker
averaging 8 puffs per cigarette then you sucked up to a nasty smelling but dependable butt 160 times a day, 58,400 times each year. How many times did you say your name last year? How many times did
you hug the human you love most? Is it any wonder that it takes a bit of patience and time to adjust to engaging life as "you"
Dependability aside, that doesn't mean we can't accelerate the pace of overcoming
years of denial thinking, moving though the bargaining phase or getting beyond the feeling that we're leaving something behind. But just
as with quickly moving beyond the end of any other relationship, it's done by shedding honest light upon each thought and not just trying
to hide from them or waiting for them to fade into distant memory.
If you have not yet read Joel's Library from cover to cover at least once then now is a
great time. Don't skip the "Why Do People Smoke" chapter as it's loaded with pearls of
wisdom on a host of logical yet faulty rationalizations. The chapter is a wonderful aid in helping sort through years of often less than
Baby steps! The next few minutes are entirely doable and there is only one rule - no
nicotine, not a puff! Everything you did while dependent upon nicotine you can do as well as or better as "you!" I know
it's hard to believe right now but before long you'll see that it's much much easier being a comfortable and relaxed ex-smoker
than it ever was feeding nicotine's never ending two-hour chemical half-life! Just one rule ... no nicotine just one hour, challenge and
day at a time. The next few minutes are all that matter and each is entirely do-able!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long! John
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Bargaining is probably the most dangerous stage in the effort to stop smoking.
"Oh boy, I could sneak this one and nobody will ever know it." "Things are really tough today, I will just have one to help me over
this problem, no more after that." "Maybe I'll just smoke today, and quit again tomorrow." It may be months before these
people even attempt to quit again.
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Depression - normal or real organic?
"My cigarette, my friend"
Turning the corner - acceptance
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