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Jan 17 03 8:35 PM
What I do find strange is how people's attitudes towards me have
changed. Some people are still extremely protective of me and my quit, whereas others find it interesting to test me to see if I really have
The "protectors" don't think that I should associate
with smokers in case I go back to smoking. I appreciate their concern but I like these people whether they smoke or not. The fact that they smoke doesn't
bother me anymore. It's their choice, as it is my choice not to smoke.
The "testers" seem to think that it's impossible to
quit and take it upon themselves to get you hooked again. They are suspicious of your quit and seem to think that you have just cut down and only smoke in
secret. So they offer you a cigarette and promise not to tell a soul, "You're secret is safe with me." It's great to see the look of
incredulity and embarrassment on their faces when you respond by saying "No." I still get a kick out it. They usually try to hide their
embarrassment by saying something like "Congratulations. Just let me know if you want one." Thanks buddy, I got your back too!
My message is don't give in! You're stronger than that! Sure
you have good days as well as some not so good days, but what's that got to do with smoking?
It's just Nicodemon lying to you. Take great pride in your
"That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the
task itself has become easier, but that our ability to perform it has improved." - Unknown
Never take another puff!!
Nicotine free for: 5M 5D 24m 53s.
Not smoked 3160 cigarettes.
I have saved £647.87
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Well, I didnt tell my husband until week 2 of my quit (I live away for work purposes at the moment) He was very sceptical of me. He quit in February
2003 for 6 months with the help of a book that 'changed his life & the way he thought about his nicotine addiction'. He told me he started
smoking again in August (but I suspect he started back up again before that) & blamed me for his failure, the fact that I couldnt quit when he did
'set him up for failure & that it was unfair of me not to quit when he did'. I think he was pretty embarrassed by the fact that he started up
again because he lectured so many people about nicotine addiction and how it 'pulls you in' to the point where smokers got very defensive &
When I did tell him his response was ' I did it for 6 months, you will never beat that!'. I was really disappointed, I had been very supportive
of him when he quit despite the fact that I didnt quit. Now every time I mention it I get a lecture that I am not at the 6 month point yet as if this is a
competition of who stayed off the longest. The worst for me is that he still remains convinced that I will relapse and he gets very defensive when I want
to talk about the subject, I'm just really proud of myself & I want to tell him how I'm doing. I was a very selfish smoker, in fact obsessed
with smoking, and my husband has always seen me as the more addicted out of the pair of us as I smoked 5 times more than him.
But despite the surprise of not having my husbands support, I have found a lot of support and encouragement from my close friends.
My mother was ecstatic when I told her I had quit for 3 months. I waited a long time to make sure this was a safe quit before telling her,
she lost both parents to lung cancer from smoking & gets pretty upset about both her daughters smoking.
Sorry if this is a ramble, I just needed to get this out.
Most importantly, I take this quit seriously and am not sceptical one bit. I know I can do this for me.
Dec 8 03 3:04 PM
Dec 8 03 4:16 PM
Here Catherine, read these two stings. The second one is not the exact same situation but it shows how a person who doesn't quit or loses a quit can act
very defensively because of the success of others.
Negative support from others
The Relapse of A "Social Smoker"
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